Lessons in Goal Setting From a Former FBI Hostage Negotiator
Episode 657: Show Notes
Goal setting forms an integral part of any business. It serves as a guide for your overall vision and can help you persevere, especially when things get tough. But how do we choose our goals? And how do we fully recognize when we’ve obtained them? Too often, we’ve seen clients achieve incredible things only to find themselves unable to appreciate their accomplishments, simply because the reality doesn’t exactly match what they envisioned. This is why, today on the show, we are revisiting our conversation on goal setting and how to appreciate our accomplishments!
We dig into the forces that influence what we envision for ourselves, and how holding onto a particular resolution can undermine our current achievements. Learn how practicing gratitude with intention can help you appreciate your current circumstances and how shifting your perspective to your past self can make you thankful for all that you have! We also share what we learned from a recent interview with a Former FBI Hostage Negotiator about why humans are hardwired to focus on the negative and how to gain perspective. Uncovering what we truly want takes time and work and appreciating what we have takes gratitude and intention. Tune in as we delve into these important topics and the role they play in your life and business!
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Practicing Gratitude With Intention
Our number one goal with our clients (and everyone we work with!) is to empower them with the agency to choose how they spend their time, both at work and in life. Unfortunately, our clients are often so fixated on the goals they’ve set, that they become blind to any achievements that don’t fit that exact description. One of the best ways to overcome this habit and gain perspective is by practicing gratitude. Practicing gratitude isn’t always easy or simple. It takes intention and consistency to implement it into your life and recognize all that you have but, if you give it a chance, you’ll recognize just how valuable it is as a practice.
Lessons in Goal Setting From a Former FBI Hostage Negotiator
It may sound random, but we’ve learned an eye-opening lesson on goal setting from a former FBI hostage negotiator; on TikTok! In the interview, he demonstrates how scientific research has repeatedly shown that human beings are inclined to devote the majority of their focus to loss, or the threat of loss, rather than gain. Researchers have found that, on average, human beings are two and a half times more likely to focus on potential threats than anything else in their life. In some cases, people were nine times as likely to focus on loss than anything else. That must have a huge impact on your psyche and your perspective! This is why our relationship with loss needs to be addressed before we can begin to broaden our focus and appreciate the positive elements in our lives. So, next time you consider your business and the goals you’re setting, remember to take a moment to acknowledge how your brain might subconsciously be affecting your outlook and do what you can to adjust your perspective accordingly.
Shifting Your Goals
We’ve been running this business for seven years now, and what worked for us at one stage during our tenure might not work several years down the line. The same is true for our clients. One of the top questions we get asked by clients is whether they should continue to charge an hourly rate. While charging hourly is valuable, especially when your business is starting out, we often encourage clients to move away from this model as they grow. Our primary reason for this is that we don’t want you to get paid less simply because you’ve become more efficient at what you do! It’s okay for your business to change and your goals to shift. Don’t let perfectionism stand in the way of appreciating everything that you have!
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Practicing gratitude is not necessarily easy or simple— it takes intention.
Highlights
Practicing Gratitude With Intention [0:08:32]
Lessons in Goal Setting From a Former FBI Hostage Negotiator [0:15:29]
Shifting Your Goals [0:23:29]
ON TODAY’S SHOW
Abagail & Emylee
The Strategy Hour Podcast
We help overwhelmed and creative entrepreneurs break down their Oprah-sized dreams to create a functioning command center to tame the chaos of their business. Basically, we think you’re totally bomb diggity, we’re about to uplevel the shiz out of your business.
KEY TOPICS
Goal setting, Gratitude, Psychology, Positive, Negative, Hourly, Hostage negotiator
